The process How do we reach clients who are stuck in hopelessness, fear, and anxiety, who lost their inner compass, and their felt sense of ME? This Workshop will address those who have had to exclude their feelings, and their need of another, or are stuck in the belief that they will never be able to connect in a deeper way. We will explore those who feel unreachable deep down in a black hole, with their sense “I will never belong”, and who are only capable of observing others who living their life, wholly, heartily.  Growing up in an environment that lacks deeper care and recognition from another, the caretaker, not only leaves the child unprotected and alone. There will be a lack of experience, which is vital to develop a whole sense of being ME and safety enough to be ME with YOU, a separate ME separate from YOU. In addition, we will see that even clients who have a higher level of functioning in the world can appear to suffer from this lack of experience. In the deepening of the relational work there can be a sudden recognition of that “there is no space inside where the (new) experience can land”. This is State 2 work in depth, in the maladaptive field, and in between maladaptive and adaptive experience. This work is not just about transforming the maladaptive emotional experience. It´s also about “forming the unformed” experience and building the Self or that part of the Self that never had the space to grow. The AEDP model, with its relational stance and explicit work with the relationship is the optimal model for these kind of deep therapeutic processes, even though there is a need to fine tune and develop the usual AEDP skills. In this workshop you will learn how to sharpen and deepen these skills, deepen your capacity to BE WITH the other, and identify crucial paths in the process. You will learn about the two parts of the process that naturally unfolds as soon as defenses and toxic shame can be put aside: the “rescuing part” and, the later, “part of becoming”. As a patient described it: “We had to get down, layer by layer, to find the deepest wound. There was an “unfolding” of new [painful] things – in the darkness. I didn´t know where we were going. And now (part two) it´s still this unfolding (of new, unformed experience). I still don´t know where we are going, but it´s not heavy any longer, and it´s now going on in the lightness.” Come and join me on an inspiring journey “From no sense of Self or ME to I can be ME with YOU, and I can be WE”. This is the journey of developing the capacity to “feel and deal AND staying related”. This Advanced Skills will build on the ASM July 2023, Rescuing the SELF: From No SELF to Core Self, with the addition of new material/videotapes for the demonstration of the work and the processes.